For quite some time now or since time immemorial, many women have been embarking on that quest towards the elusive “Mr. Right”. But how does one woman know if she is succeeding on the turf of dating or if she is mainly risking her safety?
Here are ways to know whether a woman is making the most out of her dating life without making her safety suffer.
Listen to your heart
If intuition tells one that she is not striking a string with a certain main, she should follow her gut feel and dump the guy, gently that is. Dating is not about jumping on every person that shows interest. Settling for something less is not that good of an option.
This goes with the gut feel advice. If the man seems too good to be true, chances are, he really is not good for you. Don’t be misled by saccharine promises. Learn to psychoanalyze a bit. Doing some background check surely won’t hurt.
Feel the earth move under your feet. Nope, I’m not making you dance or something like that. What I mean is keep your self grounded. Don’t be swept off by the giddy feeling all too suddenly. Taking things in stride will keep you safe from being hurt if the guy or girl is not really what you expected him or her to be. Single dating is not carried out like an overnight success. Be consciously cautious.
Never give in to peer pressure. If your roommates know about your online dating escapade and are telling you to single out somebody that you think doesn’t make the cut, you know, your standards, don’t be swayed by them. If they want that guy, they can have him, right? Single dating is not supposed to be the decision of the group, apparently.
Being too desperate over a relationship will spoil the fun of single dating life. If you go against that nagging but “healthy” advice of your instinct that you’re overdoing your dealings with your boyfriend and you better stop it or else, it will be your loss, really. For instance, you came to the point that you’re relationship is about to end, in short, you’re being dumped, but you’re still doing too many things to patch things up, that’s obviously being desperate. Single dating is just single dating. If you thought of him as the future father of your babies but you’re just a fling for him, for Pete’s sake, obviously you’re not in the same boat. Get out of that relationship, fast!
If all the while you’ve been aiming for that long-term relationship, here are few fool-proof tips on how to spot who’s NOT the man.
1. He’s overly unreliable. Promises to call you but he won’t.
2. He does not let you in his intimate circle of friends.
3. He never spouts anything about your future together
4. He rushes you into his bed.
With those in mind, and you armored with presence of mind and a cautious but not paranoid attitude, you’ll be well set off for the goodies of single dating. Go get him swooning over you!